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Cougar Dating in the United States. Will the Trend Continue?
By Fayr Barkley, Ph.D.
Older women dating younger men has been nothing the locals bat an eye at in Europe. It’s been going on for quite some time. But in a country such as the United States with still a bit of a puritanical hangover, only the larger cities are hopping on board right away.
I have a Cougar/Cub dating site and while I have seen membership grow in the past year, I notice that most members are coming from the larger cities. Trends seem to start in California and “infect” the rest of the country. My members are from all over the world, so I get a good perspective of what this dating dynamic is like world wide.
The U.S. doesn’t have any true royalty, so the populous looks to celebrities to model after. Remember when Cher was ridiculed for having such young boyfriends? Now Demi, Madonna, Susan Sarandon, and other mature women date and marry their younger loves. This behavior has in effect, legitimized and given permission to women who are tired of competing for the attentions of men in their age range who are in short supply, have alimony, child support and other issues or baggage that the mature woman who has energy to spare and a sex drive to match and who wants a companion who can keep up with her on more than one level.
It’s not all about sex. My female members (many of whom date younger and older men) say men their age can’t keep up with them, disappoint them in bed, aren’t all that to look at any more and have forgotten the fine art of romancing and courting a woman. Some of the women just want a hook up with no expectations, but many women on the site are looking for a meaningful connection, possibly long term, even marriage.
Women in the South tend to be “closet Cougars” who are still concerned what the boss, co workers and the neighbors will think about their new dating style. Fearful of being public, ridiculed, ostracized or losing friendships or job opportunities, they keep their dating on the down low. The younger men (Cubs) in the South tell me it is very hard to find a southern Cougar. Their laments are endless and fraught with frustration.
In Los Angeles, where I currently live, we have many parties and events where the men and women from my site can meet, mix, mingle, date, mate and connect outside of a click a pic and email online situation.
As I get to know this group of men and women, I see they are no different from anyone else. They just prefer the company of someone who is not in their age group. The younger men like that for the most part, older women know who they are and what they want and are not afraid to go after it. They like that these women can talk about topics that younger women seem to be uneducated or inexperienced in and that the drama quotient is less. Women their age, they claim, play too many games and manipulate, whereas the Cougar woman tends to be more of a straight shooter. In terms of the boudoir, the women like that they have a younger man who is eager to learn to please them. They tell me that trying to teach the “older dogs new tricks” doesn’t get very far. They tell me it is great to not have to fake orgasms any more. Biologically, a woman in her 40’s and up is in the peak of her sexuality. The younger men are in the peak of their. Voila. It’s a match.
But it goes beyond sex for most of the men and women I have gotten to know over the past year. Keep in mind I am in daily contact with my thousands of members. I write articles, dole out advice, listen to concerns about being a newbie, support and encourage and even facilitate introductions. Although thousands of miles separate us, we have become friends-family if you will. We have a live chat every Wednesday night and discuss relationships, sex, dating, mating and I am constantly writing articles so that men and women can understand themselves and each other better.
The women tell me that now that they have suffered and dodged the slings and arrows of life, gone through a divorce, raised children, been hired, been fired, lost parents and loved ones that they now truly feel they have “earned their stripes” to be who they really are. And who they really are means multidimensional women with passion, perspective and panache who want to break out of the confines of having to always take care of others and take care of themselves. This includes finding romance, passion and fun. A whole lot of fun. The women on my site seem to be born to dance and even though the men are young, we have left many a venue with the women still dancing out to their cars.
People ask me all the time to define what a Cougar is. This I can say with certainty. No one, not the media, not society, not your neighbor or your bff defines a true Cougar. A true Cougar woman defines herself. And the Cougar “dating trend” that some feel may just be a flash in the pan isn’t going any where. It is here to stay.
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Imagine spending three nights on a luxury cruise ship, full of hot cougars and cubs. This could be reality if you book one of the new Cougar Cruises from The Singles Travel Company and The Society of Single Professionals. The first sell out cougar cruise set sail on December 4th 2009 and there are many more planned. I can only imagine how much fun was had on this ship, with so many cougars and cubs looking to hook up in one relatively small area.
There was a stop off at Ensenada in Mexico where guests could explore the area and even do a spot of horseback riding.
300 spaces were booked on the 2,052-capacity ship by cougars and cubs from around the world and there was also a waiting list.
Rich Gosse, chairman of The Society of Single Professionals, said the cruise had been a success.
He said: ‘We had 300 cougars and cubs and lots of parties. Lots of people had fun. What they did behind closed doors I cannot comment on because I wasn’t there.
‘Cubs are finally awakening to the fact that cougars make suitable partners.’
Mr Gosse added that feedback from fellow passengers who had not booked as a cougar or a cub had been positive.
‘The truth is that there are millions of American men who find older women attractive, and we will prove it on the Cougar Cruise.’
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Cougar women, put 28th August in your date book, because the biggest cougar party ever is taking place in Silicon Valley, San Francisco. The area is famous for having lots of young, successful men, but not many available women. So, it is the perfect place to meet someone.
The event starts at 9pm and will crown Miss Cougar America, who will be selected out of women, all aged 40 plus.I think it will be an incredibly fun event. The party will take place at Dinah’s Garden Hotel, 4261 El Camino Real, Palo Alto CA 94306.
If you can’t make it to the event, but want to meet younger men, you like to sign up to a cougar dating site. You will be able to check out loads of profiles, before you even make contact. This enables you to check out photos and information and then you can message the person that takes your interest, or start online chat, before meeting up.
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A friend of mine often has rather short-term relationships, but loves nothing more than staying friends with her ex after the relationship has fizzled. I don’t think I would be able to do this. It just seems too complicated. I wonder whether anyone ever pulls off a true friendship with someone of the opposite sex, without any strings, such as sex, lust and desire?
I have heard of people who swear blind that they have great friends of the opposite sex, only to find out later that the other person in the friendship lusts after them, or has fallen in love. Sometimes the person who was fine with being just friends, previously becomes jealous when their friend hooks up with someone else.
If you are a younger guy, who plans to date a cougar woman, you may meet women along the way, whose company you enjoy, but who you do not want to be sexually involved with. If a friendship develops, which you both enjoy that is great, but you should be careful not to complicate things with sex. Once you have become sexually involved, it is hard to go back to your original friendship. Sex definitely changes things.
Another thing to ask yourself, is how you will feel when this cougar or cub ,that you get along so well with, dates, hooks up or falls in love with someone else. Is that something you can handle?
It is also worth paying extra attention to how your ‘friend’ reacts when you talk about people you are sexually interested in. It is quite possible that you could be hurting your friend without realizing it, if they have hidden feelings for you.
There is no right or wrong answer, as to whether cougar women and cub men can be just good friends and nothing more. It is up to each individual to judge whether a friendship would work for both of you. If you can enjoy a friendship, good for you. You will probably enjoy each others company and learn from each other, as you continue your cougar dating journey.
If you would like to meet cougar women or cub men for more than friendship you could join an online dating site.
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Above we have an example of two people who are colleagues and friends, Sandra Bullock and Ryan Reynolds. He’s happily married and he still can’t help checking out her boobs!
She was married to Spandau Ballet’s Gary Kemp and actor Jude Law, before gaining a reputation as a celebrity cougar with a succession of sexy toy boys. But now Sadie Frost (pictured here in a gorgeous anti fur ad for PETA) is trying out speed dating as she searches for love. A pal close to the 44-year old reveals, “Sadie admits that things haven’t worked out for her relationship-wise since she and Jude Law divorced. While she’s dated several younger men, they’ve never been Mr Right.”
Next time she goes along to a speed dating night she will be taking along gal pal Supermodel Kate Moss. Although of course Kate won’t be bringing her boyfriend Jamie Hince.
Speed dating is a pretty good option if you want to meet hot cougar women, or sexy toy boys, but for those of you who are not into that scene, you could try online dating. That way you can meet cougars or cubs in your local area and check out their profiles before you contact them.
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There are many different kinds of cougar women out there; single, gay, divorced, widowed and married. There are also hot cubs out there to suit most cougar women. If you decide to join an online dating site like Cougardatelink, you can tell your potential dates situation just by checking out their profile. However, if you are out on the town looking for a cougar, you may not be able to tell as easily.
Some guys are happy to date a married woman and be discreet, but most would prefer to avoid this situation and any stress that may come with it. It is important to remember in these situations that a third person is involved and someone is going to get hurt. So if you feel your cougar date is not being up front with you about her status then here are some signs you can look for to spot a married cougar woman yourself.
1. Trust you instincts – If you feel like there is something wrong, then there probably is.
2. Look for obvious signs – The cougar you are dating would be a bit silly to leave her wedding ring on, but you may notice a tan mark where a ring used to be, or an indentation. You should also look out for clues such as photos of men in her wallet.
3. Meeting Times and Places – If your date is cagey about where and when you meet up, that is not a good sign. She may be trying to avoid a place where he husband or boyfriend frequents, or perhaps she only wants to meet when he is out of town. If your cougar woman only wants to stay in, she may be trying to avoid being seen with you by people who know she is married. If she won’t give you her home phone number, or insists on calling you, rather than you calling her, she could be trying to hide something.
4. Your Date’s Behaviour – Does your date seem nervous when you are in certain public places? Perhaps she has to run off to answer her phone on most of your dates and refuses to tell you what the phone call was about. Always give her a chance to explain, after all it could just be a work call. Just be aware.
5. Meet her friends – Eventually in any relationship comes the time to meet your date’s friends. If your cougar woman keeps putting this off it could be that she is in another relationship and doesn’t want her friends to find out about you.
6. Still have doubts? – Drop in unexpectedly. See whether she is comfortable with you just dropping by, or does she have something to hide?
Unless it is glaringly obvious that your cougar date is cheating, try not to be paranoid, especially in the beginning. It will be very off putting for her. Always give her the chance to explain, it may not be what you think.
Cougar ladies, you should look out for the same signs. Just because your hot cub date is a lot younger doesn’t mean that he is not married, or in a serious relationship with someone else. Keep your wits about you to avoid getting hurt, or hurting an innocent third party.
If you want to avoid all this trouble it may be a better idea to meet cougars and cubs online. There will probably be a surprising amount of people wanting to hook up or date in your area.
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Are you a hot young cub who fancies dating a cougar? Well if you are still on the fence as to whether dating a cougar is for you check out these benefits of dating a sexy cougar.
1. A cougar is sexually experienced meaning a fantastic time for both of you. You can even learn some things from her, making you able to satisfy a woman in the future.
2. Cougars are confident and know exactly what they want. This takes a lot of the guess work out of it for you and that makes for a more sensual date.
3. Cougar women got their name for the way they aggressively pursue their ‘prey’, or future dates. This means that you will know when a cougar is interested in you and you won’t have to tiptoe around her.No unnecessary drama!
4. The words cougar woman now also mean someone who is empowered, independent, individual and confident. Isn’t that the kind of woman you would like to date?
5. Cougars often take great care of their bodies, making them hot, sexy dates.
6. Cougars generally have more money than younger girls, meaning you will often be well looked after and you will be able to go on those more luxurious dates and to hotels that you couldn’t think of before.
There are so many benefits that come with dating a cougar, whether you are seriously dating, or casually hooking up. Why not try it out yourself, by signing up for free at a dating site like this one: Click here to sign up for free and meet Cougars or Cubs in your area.